Unlocking Self-Care – Why Pen and Paper Could Be the Only Tools You Need
One of the hardest parts of any transition is that feeling of being in between. You’re not who you were before, but you’re not quite sure who you’re becoming either.
Maybe you’ve outgrown certain beliefs, relationships, or routines, but stepping into the next version of yourself feels… uncertain.
Getting Clearer with Age: What I’m Learning About Decision-Making
We’re taught to be careful, to weigh our options, to not make impulsive choices. And while thoughtfulness has its place, I’ve realized that sometimes the endless search for certainty is just fear in disguise.
Because here’s the truth:
There is no perfect career move, only the next right step.
There is no perfect relationship decision, only the choice that aligns with who you are today.
There is no perfect way to navigate life’s transitions, only the willingness to trust that you’ll figure things out as you go.
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This hit home for me, so I tested it out with something small but persistent: taking out the trash.
Normally, if I was the one dragging the garbage to the curb, I’d feel annoyed—Why am I the only one who does this? Why hasn’t anyone else taken care of it?
But this time, I stopped myself and shifted my perspective. Instead of frustration, I reframed it as:
I am of use to my household by doing this task.
And honestly? It made a difference. It didn’t make taking out the trash fun, but it stripped away the resentment. I wasn’t carrying extra frustration over what other people weren’t doing. I just did what I needed to do and moved on.
It’s a small shift, but it changes everything.
The Power of Alignment
But the reality is that boundaries are not about keeping people out - but more about keeping your peace in. They’re guidelines that protect you. Boundaries are also an act of self-respect. They show others how to treat you. Guilt only creeps in because we’ve been conditioned to prioritize the needs and feelings of others; over ourselves - & I can tell your from experience as a professional boundary bender - it leads to resentment and burnout.
So, as you are looking at the close of the 1st quarter of 2025 - I invite you to ask yourself: “Am I unapologetically enforcing my boundaries?”