The Power of Alignment

Unapologetically Yourself

Here we are! We made it to March. My theme for March is Reflect, Renew, & Refocus. At the end of the month we will have been in 2025 for 90 days and so I ask you; Are you on the right path? Are you thriving and reaching your milestones that you set for yourself for 2025? Let’s talk about it.

Check- In: Are you living in alignment? Let’s take a moment. Take a deep breath, let it out slowly; and then ask yourself:

Are my current goals truly mine; or do they reflect what others expect from me? 

Pause. What comes up for you? Jot it down on a piece of paper, or in your phone, or that napkin on your desk from lunch.

Now ask yourself:

What habits or relationships might be standing in the way of my progress? 

Write down anything that comes up for you.

The Cost of Compromise

We tend to over-promise and over-deliver in my opinion. The down side of this can include:

Emotional Exhaustion: Constantly saying yes when you mean no. Yes to that dinner party. Yes to that meeting. Yes to that extra project at work. Or even yes to that unexpected houseguest. Overtime, this erodes your sense of self and leaves your feeling depleted.

Physical Fatigue: Compromising your time for rest, or a lunch break might seem small at the moment; but it can also lead to burn out and health issues ( go ahead; ask me how I know..)

Mental Clutter: When you’re always adjusting for others; your mind stays busy juggling your should-dos with your want to-dos with your have to-dos. This creates a sense of tug-o-war that can lead to a loss of mental clarity and decision fatigue.

Lost Joy & Creativity:  When you are in constant compromise mode; there’s very little space or time left for things that light you up and recharge your batteries.

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Reclaiming Your Power Staying Unapologetically You

Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

 We often feel guilty when setting boundaries, like we are being rude, too harsh, or selfish (read my February post on Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish here where I did a whole deep dive about this). But the reality is that boundaries are not about keeping people out - but more about keeping your peace in. They’re guidelines that protect you. Boundaries are also an act of self-respect. They show others how to treat you. Guilt only creeps in because we’ve been conditioned to prioritize the needs and feelings of others; over ourselves - & I can tell your from experience as a professional boundary bender - it leads to resentment and burnout. 

So, as you are looking at the close of the 1st quarter of 2025 - I invite you to ask yourself:

“Am I unapologetically  enforcing my boundaries?”

If not, don’t you think it’s time you start?

Something else to look at when reclaiming your peace and focus this year is to take a look at the goals you set earlier this year. How are you progressing? Are you finding some harder than others or better yet; do you find yourself asking “What was I thinking when I set THAT as a goal for this year?

I mean; Parasailing is a great idea in theory; but since I can’t swim; it’s not such a great idea in practice.

If you are anything like me; you were probably raised to never give up. I was raised as a military kid and spent the majority of my life living on the base until I was in the 7th grade when my parents thought it would be a great idea to drop me into the  civilian world with no social skills or prep (but that’s a post for another day). You never quit. You never give up (or in) and to do so is an admission of defeat and failure. Yep, that was a regular saying in my childhood.

However, as I am approaching 50 (at a rapid clip I might add) I have learned that goals are like clothes. They fit great in the store, and 2 weeks later they won’t zip up. They become tight or that trend that you thought was a good idea to get in on; really isn’t your schtick. It’s the same way with life. What once fueled your passions and lit you up inside - now feels like an obligation.

I love to knit for example. So I thought a Youtube channel would be a great idea. 75 videos and 711 hard won subscribers later - my once loved hobby now felt like a clingy friend. You know - the needy kind? I literally went from knitting every day to getting stressed just seeing my WIPS and UFO’s (that’s works in progress and unfinished objects for the knitting uninitiated).  Yep the channel had to go. And that’s OK. Letting go doesn’t mean you failed - it means you tried and now you are making room for growth.

Staying true to yourself in your energy, your goals and your boundaries isn’t easy and isn't linear.

Life will pull you in a million directions; and it’s easy to fall back into what is familiar. But, if we want growth; we have to stay out of the familiar and lean into the unknown.

Your journey won’t be perfect and that’s okay too. Remember - Progress - NOT Perfection.

But each small shift you make every day is a win

Everyday that you show up as yourself unapologetically - is growth.

Something I learned in a life coaching class was:

Small Hinges, Swing Big Doors

So, the next time you find yourself saying “Yes” when you mean “No”, remember that your little yes (the hinge) is swinging that big door wide open for you to end up out of alignment.

Bringing It All Together

As we wrap up the first quarter of 2025, I invite you to pause and revisit those two simple, yet powerful questions:

Are my current goals truly mine, or do they reflect what others expect from me?
What habits or relationships might be standing in the way of my progress?

Take a moment to reflect on how your answers may have shifted as you read through this post. Have you noticed areas where you’re thriving—or maybe places where you’ve been compromising your peace?

Remember, alignment isn’t a one-time achievement—it’s a continual process of checking in, adjusting, and honoring your truth. Every time you choose yourself, set a boundary, or let go of a goal that no longer fits, you’re reclaiming your power.

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So, as you step into the next season, stay unapologetically you. Progress, not perfection, is the goal. 🌿

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